Being Spiritually Present for Our Children

By John C. Preiss

We must accept and realize the vocation of parenthood is a sacred calling that encompasses far more than providing for the physical and emotional needs of children. It is fundamentally rooted in the spiritual responsibility to guide, nurture, and intercede for children throughout their lives. Prayer is an essential expression of this responsibility, and Catholic tradition strongly encourages parents to pray for their children’s well-being, their growth in faith, their discernment of vocation, their health, and even for their future spouses. This spiritual commitment does not end when a child reaches adulthood; rather, it continues as an enduring act of love and faith.

Prayer for Children’s Growth in Faith

The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches that parents are the “first heralds of the faith” to their children (CCC 1656). This means that parents are entrusted with the primary role of introducing their children to God and fostering a relationship with Christ. Through prayer, parents not only ask for God’s grace upon their children but also model a life of faith. Praying for children’s growth in faith is an act of entrusting them to God’s providence, asking that they may come to know, love, and serve Him throughout their lives. As parents we need to pray that our children will receive the gifts of the Holy Spirit, develop virtues, and remain steadfast in their Catholic identity, even amidst the challenges and temptations of the world.

Prayer for Discernment of Vocation

Catholic teaching recognizes that each person has a unique vocation—a calling from God to a particular state of life, such as marriage, priesthood, religious life, or singlehood. Parents are encouraged to pray that their children will be open to God’s call and have the courage to respond generously. This prayer is not about imposing a specific path, but rather about seeking God’s will for their children’s lives. By praying for their children’s vocation, parents support them in discerning their purpose and mission, trusting that God will lead them to fulfillment and holiness.

Prayer for Health and Well-being

The physical and emotional health of our children should be a natural concern. As Catholics prayer for health is an act of entrusting children to God’s care, recognizing that He is the ultimate healer and protector. Parents should actively pray for their children’s safety, healing from illness, and strength to endure difficulties. This prayer reflects a deep trust in God’s providence. It fosters a sense of peace, knowing that God’s love and mercy surround their children at all times.

Prayer for Future Spouses

For parents whose children are called to marriage, praying for their future spouses is a profound act of love. It is a way of asking God to bless and prepare the person who will one day share their child’s life. This prayer seeks God’s guidance in bringing together two people who will help each other grow in holiness and love. It also reflects the Catholic understanding of marriage as a vocation and a sacrament, a means through which God’s grace is poured out upon the couple and their family.

Parenting as a Lifelong Vocation

Parenting does not end when a child turns 18 or leaves home. The spiritual bond between parent and child endures, and so does the responsibility to pray for them. Adult children continue to face challenges, make important decisions, and grow in their faith journeys. Parents are called to support them through ongoing prayer, even as their role shifts from direct guidance to spiritual accompaniment. This lifelong commitment is a testament to the enduring love that mirrors God’s own love for His children.

In Conclusion

As parents we should entrust our children to God, seeking His guidance, protection, and blessings at every stage of life. This spiritual legacy is one of the greatest gifts we can offer as parents. It is definitely a great act of love.